Our Love Story
Zikar’s POV
The first time I saw Kachi was on a cold winter morning in December 2022. I was in Church for the Shiloh Impartation Service when he walked in with a large Bible and iPad and went straight to sit in the front pew. He was the first non-pastor in the Church I’d seen with a Bible that big, and I found it quite amusing. I remember thinking, “who is this tall, fine man that loves God?”. He was one of the few guys in Church that morning, and for a split second, I imagined us being married and coming to Church together on cold mornings. Anyway, I quickly snapped myself out of it. I was in Church to worship God, not to stare at a man! After Church that morning, he asked me if he could drop me off at my apartment, and I said Nope. Typical me, feisty for the fun of it
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After that day, I started seeing him in Church more often. He would often ask to give me a ride home and I will always decline. With time, we got talking and discovered that we lived in the same Estate back home in Abuja, we did our NYSC in Abuja in the same year and went to similar Universities (Babcock and Covenant). It was interesting to learn that back home in Abuja, we were almost always in proximity but never met until we were in Ireland. I eventually quit the ride declining Olympics and we gradually became good friends. He would always tell me to call him if I needed anything and anytime I called him, he would come through without fail. He always had a solution for every problem; he was consistent with his words and actions. I also realised that we were kindred spirit. We had similar value systems, unpopular opinions, and quirks including our love for group dancing and travelling at odd hours. Gradually but steadily, Kachi became my go-to guy, we became close friends and as they say, “one thing led to another” (doesn’t it always? Lol).
In early 2025, he asked me to be his girlfriend. Later that year, I thought we were going on a double date with our friends who had just gotten married but that evening, I walked into the most spectacular and thoughtful proposal. In case you’re wondering, I said Yes!
Who knew that a frosty winter morning held one of my biggest blessings. I’m about to marry my best friend and I’m so excited. Please join us as we count down to #zkforever!
Kachi’s POV
I love a detailed story but if I do that here, we’d have a mini novel. But here goes a super-abridged version of me and Zikar’s love story. For the full gist, we’d have to start a podcast
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Our story started in Church in December 2022, nothing too dramatic, just me walking in one Sunday and noticing a new face. Fine girl alert. I clocked it and minded my business. No numbers, no long talk…just a quick hi after the service to welcome a new member and that was that. Fast forward to 2023, somehow, we kept ending up in the same spaces. We lived in the same city and attended the same Church. I noticed she hardly accepted lifts from anyone after service. She was quietly independent, always finding her own way. I offered a couple of times, she politely declined, and I respected that and left it alone.
One Sunday after service, she and other ushers were rounding up some work, and I was there to support them. While doing the work, we got talking and then came the plot. We discovered that we both grew up in the same estate back in Abuja, Nigeria. The SAME estate. We had been neighbours back home for years without crossing paths. God was clearly waiting for the right time.
Anyway, one cold afternoon after Church, she finally asked me for a lift. I said sure. We talked the whole ride home, exchanged numbers, and that’s how our friendship started…low-key, no pressure, just showing up and being there, sometimes exchanging ideas; our friendship was genuinely solid. Same energy, similar opinions, always on the same page about things nobody else in the room agreed with.
At some point a mutual friend asked me which girl in Church I’d pursue and without thinking, her name popped out of my mouth. I paused, looked at myself and thought… Sir, what? 
. To be fair, she’s the sweetest, softest and one of the most genuine people I’ve met in my life… so I guess my subconscious already knew 
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Towards the last quarter of 2024, we stopped talking frequently and drifted apart, but we reconnected in early 2025 when she wanted to move from Limerick to Dublin. She asked for my help, I showed up and drove a moving van (across counties) for the first time in my life. A whole moving van.
We got very close and started spending more time together till she literally became the closest person to me asides immediate family. We dated for a really short time packed with many beautiful memories and by November 2025, I had the ring. She said YES.
Nobody could have told me that my person would be the same girl who declined my lift offer multiple times. I didn’t plan any of this, I didn’t see it coming, but in hindsight, every single moment was leading exactly here. She was and is the one, I just needed a little time to catch up. So here we are, in God’s time and clearly, His timing is perfect. #zkforever!